Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Marriage & Divorce 2.0

I saw in the news today, a lawyer said divorce should be allowed. Again, going back to what is written in the bible, "What God has joined together, let not man separate" Matt19:6; Jesus answered, "It was because of your hardness of heart that Moses permitted you to divorce your wives, but it was not this way from the beginning. Matt19:8

I always remember these verses when confronted with issues about marriage and divorce. Well, guess it really got stuck to me because I had already written about it some years ago. You may read it here.

While there might be instances that it's better to break up especially if one is abused, etc., but other than that, you really need to work on it. More often than not, it is just a miscommunication or no proper communication at all.

I am reminded by what I read earlier today in an article, after meeting his wife when they were 15 years old, friends for 10 years, and married for a year and a half, the author realized and said to his dad "Marriage is not for me". Then, his father told him that he is being selfish and indeed, marriage is not for him. It is for a family, for future children and for the person he married.

True enough, marriage is not about our happiness and what we want in a relationship. Rather, marriage is about the other person. You marry because you want to make the other person happy. It is forgetting about yourself and thinking about how the other person feels. You marry simply because you love. And when you love you give. Loving is not taking.

Personally, I forget this at times. I often hear some say "Love makes the world go round". Then, I would at back of my mind murmur, love is so overrated. Duh?! O.A. kau.. Kabusy bah.. Lol.. :P But really, I have those moments. Then, I am reminded that the primary purpose of our creation is to love. Our mandate is simplified into two things: Love God and love our neighbors. Just these two things, if we do it we will simplify our lives.

But of course, we are hard headed. Stubborn, just like that, we wage war against each other, we become envious of others' successes and rejoice in their failures, we most of the time get wrapped up in our own world we forget to think of and love others. We end up frustrated, unfulfilled, lost, and just tired of life.

There is too much negativity arround us. We suck it up daily as much as we can until one way or another we become desperately miserable in our darkness. Just because we focus on ourselves too much. We have allowed ourselves to be selfish and grumble about our circumstances. We become ungrateful. Unappreciative of what God has graced us with.

Well, I guess, love really is the missing link. Love is the answer to all of our problems then. For without love, is life really worth living?

So keep loving! Praying for you! 💚

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