Just saying!

Sometimes I just can’t help but be hurt by the words that struck my heart. No matter how I rationalize that it’s okay, that I am okay, that everything is okay and that I should not be hurt by what people say because everyone is entitled to their opinion anyway. That what they say isn’t necessarily true. But the truth is, it is not okay and I am not okay. And honestly, it does hurt.

People will always have something to say. People will always have an idea of how you should live your life. And sometimes it is just so suffocating and you can’t help but retaliate with a sarcastic comment and a bruised pride. Well, even though I know for a fact that they don’t mean to hurt me, that they did that because of their concern for me. I just can’t help but have this hurt feeling. Yes, that just proves that I am HUMAN. I am human after all.

Well, I guess I do need a kick in the butt. I know I haven’t been really living up to expectations nor to my fullest potentials. Yes, I admit that I have been slacking off. But can’t I have a break? Can’t I have this moment to myself? Can’t I be free of the cares of everyone else but my own? Is it a crime to take a moment and figure out what I need to figure out for myself? Will you please get off my freaking back? 

Oh yes! You have gazillions of ideas of what to do if you were in my place. Yes, you could have done this and that, and whatever it is that you can think of. But here is a fact, the thing is you are NOT me and I am not YOU. So live your life and I live mine, thank you. Let me live my life because I sure do hope you are living yours well. 

Back to Basics: Living

I was checking my Facebook messages and a friend in one of my groups, posted a link to an article written by Anna Cosio about Nadine Lustre’s ambush interview where she said, “ It’s 2017… If that was true, so what? There are younger couples who do that… It’s normal na… Come on, guys. Let’s all just be open-minded.” In her comment, she neither admitted nor denied the issue at hand.

Anna cited some sociological studies where cohabitation is disadvantageous especially to women where she concluded, “Cohabitation is not the way to go for a successful marriage… That is why I hope that Ms. Lustre’s younger female fans would not take her word as gospel.”

Now, there has been an ongoing debate about cohabitation. Premarital cohabitation and what not has been in existence for the longest time. And we must remember that there is always two side of a coin. There will always be Pros and Cons. And people will always have differing opinions.

Feanne wrote an article in defense to Nadine, stating it’s none of our business, and that, they have the right to do whatever it is they want in their personal lives. While this is true and I could not agree more,, it is important to note that being a celebrity, you are in a spotlight and are being looked up by the thousands if not millions of youth, so you have to be extra cautious of your actions since people will always associate you as a “role model”.

As for the public especially the youth, you have to strive to know better. We all have that responsibility to develop ourselves and be responsible for what we say or do. And while maturity does not necessarily come with age, I urge everyone to be careful of everything we hear and believe in because they become our principles in life.

There are many things that distract us from living “life”. A lot of things attack the very core of our existence. We fall prey, time and again. What I am trying to say is, the constant battle between good and evil in every generation is that evil does not only tempt us but make us believe that it is okay and acceptable because everyone is doing it. Just because everyone is doing it and we have become open-minded and liberated, doesn’t make it right. We have to be mindful; it might be a wolf in a sheep's clothing.

Photo Credit: theconcussionblog

Setting aside all the scientific studies recent or not, let us go Back to Basics, sex and marriage are not designed that way. And yes, we are in the year 2017, we have become a people of instants. We want everything instant, instant noodles, instant coffee, instant gratification, instant everything, but there is wisdom in waiting. As they say, “Patience is a virtue”. Like in all things, when you wait for something long enough or longer, once we have it, we value it more than the things we got sooner.

Again, the biblical wisdom of to do and what not to do have always been there to remind us that there are consequences of our actions, whether or not we follow, the decision is upon us. God does not impose these to us. Remember, we have free will. Love and respect have a major part in this day and age, whether it is in the decision one has made, between peoples, or the between partners.

The fact remains, we are all sinners. As it is written in John 8:7, it says, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her”. Stop the hating and pointing fingers. Instead, let us be mature and responsible in living our lives pleasing and acceptable to God. Whether which side you are on, you are not accountable to anyone but yourself and your God.

Much love ❤ 

Marriage & Divorce 2.0

I saw in the news today, a lawyer said divorce should be allowed. Again, going back to what is written in the bible, "What God has joined together, let not man separate" Matt19:6; Jesus answered, "It was because of your hardness of heart that Moses permitted you to divorce your wives, but it was not this way from the beginning. Matt19:8

I always remember these verses when confronted with issues about marriage and divorce. Well, guess it really got stuck to me because I had already written about it some years ago. You may read it here.

While there might be instances that it's better to break up especially if one is abused, etc., but other than that, you really need to work on it. More often than not, it is just a miscommunication or no proper communication at all.

I am reminded by what I read earlier today in an article, after meeting his wife when they were 15 years old, friends for 10 years, and married for a year and a half, the author realized and said to his dad "Marriage is not for me". Then, his father told him that he is being selfish and indeed, marriage is not for him. It is for a family, for future children and for the person he married.

True enough, marriage is not about our happiness and what we want in a relationship. Rather, marriage is about the other person. You marry because you want to make the other person happy. It is forgetting about yourself and thinking about how the other person feels. You marry simply because you love. And when you love you give. Loving is not taking.

Personally, I forget this at times. I often hear some say "Love makes the world go round". Then, I would at back of my mind murmur, love is so overrated. Duh?! O.A. kau.. Kabusy bah.. Lol.. :P But really, I have those moments. Then, I am reminded that the primary purpose of our creation is to love. Our mandate is simplified into two things: Love God and love our neighbors. Just these two things, if we do it we will simplify our lives.

But of course, we are hard headed. Stubborn, just like that, we wage war against each other, we become envious of others' successes and rejoice in their failures, we most of the time get wrapped up in our own world we forget to think of and love others. We end up frustrated, unfulfilled, lost, and just tired of life.

There is too much negativity arround us. We suck it up daily as much as we can until one way or another we become desperately miserable in our darkness. Just because we focus on ourselves too much. We have allowed ourselves to be selfish and grumble about our circumstances. We become ungrateful. Unappreciative of what God has graced us with.

Well, I guess, love really is the missing link. Love is the answer to all of our problems then. For without love, is life really worth living?

So keep loving! Praying for you! 💚

The Man Who Can't Be Moved

I don't know why I feel quite weird breathing kind of like a chest pain or something. Perhaps because of the smell of paint. I was painting the other room earlier. Or it could be the coffee I drank. I usually kind of palpitate when I have some. I know I shouldn't but I got tempted! I'm not sure which one cause it. 

So it's 2:17 in the morning and as always I'm in zombie mode, reading and I felt like writing as well, while the rest of the world is sleeping. It has been a while since I have written again. Hah! Anyway, I'd like to share with you this beautiful song entitled "The Man Who Can't Be Moved" by The Script. When I heard this song for the first time some years ago, I immediately loved it. The tune, the lyrics, the storyline, it is a beautiful song. 

It somehow moved me through a different level. It made me reflect and realized that like the relationship we have with God, even if how many times we rebel and run away from Him, we will always have a home. We will always have someone to go back to. He is going nowhere but staying put. He is not moving no matter where we go, what we are doing, where life leads us. God will always be there. He will faithfully wait for us until the day we come home to Him. This is one of the secular songs that surprisingly remind me of the God who is Not Moving and Constantly loves me no matter what.

Hope you enjoy it as much as I  always do.

Love lots,

Vanz 😉

Right Time: Now

I honestly have so many things in my mind that it becomes too paralyzing. It seems that I'm caught up in an analysis-paralysis state. 


I saw this on Goalcast: Whatever you're pondering about. Now is the right time. 

I hope I'd be able to overcome whatever this is. There is no time to waste. May I ultimately be wise in my decisions, be obedient to God's will, be able to do what is right, and most of all bring back all the glory to Him who is always faithful and true. Not because of what He has done for me but for simply being who He is.

I will always be #ForeverGrateful 💕😇